Etiquette ~ requesting monetary gifts instead of toasters.

Asking for money from your guests is definitely an uneasy task for many couples. However, many of these couples prefer to receive cash over the everyday household item that they may already possess. So how do you do this without being completely rude to your guests or making them feel that they absolutely have to get you a gift? That is exactly the question we’re here to answer.

The easiest way to ask your guests for money is to have your close family and friends put the word out for you. No this does not mean that you will have your parents and your bridal party walking around the reception with a collection hat. This just simply means that you should express these feelings of wanting cash instead of gifts to them, this way when someone asks them what to get you they can express your feelings to that particular guest. This gives you guests the option to decide whether they will follow through with your wishes and give you cash or buy  you a traditional gift.

Though word of mouth this an effective tool in spreading the word it may also be effective to express your feelings to your guests. How? Use your wedding website to its fullest extent, instead of adding a link to a  gift registry in the “registry” portion of your site you can ask your guests to help contribute money towards a home, car, or even your honeymoon. And of course no one wants to come off as completely vulgar when asking for money from their guests so you can get creative and say it through a poem:

“If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way.

A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.

However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way.”

If you still feel a little wary about asking for hard cash it’s ok, I know of some other ways to ask. You could incorporate a wedding wishing well into your reception space, this allows your guests to give you money without handing you a wad of cash in your hand. However, for your wishing well to be successful the word should have been spread that this wishing well would be present at the reception. Of course your wishing well would also require some form of creativity. This will mean that it should be decorated to match your entire wedding decor, but it should NOT have a sign next to it that says ” cash here please” , a poem would also be great for you wishing well.

More than just kisses so far we’ve shared,

Our home has been made with Love and Care,

Most things we need we’ve already got,

And in our home we can’t fit a lot!

A wishing well we thought would be great,

(But only if you wish to participate),

A gift of money is placed in the well,

Then make a wish …. but shhh don’t tell!

Once we’ve replaced the old with the new,

We can look back and say it was thanks to you!

And in return for your kindness, we’re sure

That one day soon you will get what you wished for.

Though some guests may love your approach and may be more than willing to fund your new beginnings some guests may remain wary of handing over cold hard cash. For the comfort of these guests there are sites that will allow you to register for cash, yes that’s right you can register for cash, How Perfect! On these sites you can register for cash and your guests can choose to give you whatever amount they would like, the check is usually sent out on or after the wedding day. You can also find banks like suntrust that have bridal registry and your guests can go on the site and contribute to a down payment on a new house for the two of you. There are also many sites that will allow your guests to do similar things while also leaving the option for a traditional gift open to them.

Uncomfortable doesn’t have to mean stressful, so remember the best way to ask your guests is to just be honest, it is up to them to get you two a gift or to hand you cash. Either way I’m sure you’d greatly appreciate both, or at least you should.

ENJOY!!!

 

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